‘My daughter, 5, is traumatised after I told her I didn’t want kids – including her’

A mum was slammed by parents online after telling her five-year-old daughter that she never wanted children – including her.

The woman, 24, has four kids ranging between the ages of one and five years old, all of which were planned as per her husband’s request.

He had always pushed her to have another child despite the fact she never really wanted to be a mum.

She admitted: “If he’d have let me I would’ve stopped after our oldest.”

The mum added that she feels as if she doesn’t connect with her children very well.

But when a conversation with her eldest daughter, five, ended in her “massively misinterpreting” what she meant when she told her she never wanted children, she asked Reddit for advice.

She said: “A few nights ago I was putting my eldest daughter to sleep when she started asking me loads of questions.

“She’s a really curious little girl. I had a traumatic birth with her and post natal depression so always struggled with bonding, and still do struggle connecting with her.

“She told me she wants lots of babies when she’s older and then asked me how many I wanted when I was her age.

“I told her I didn’t want any and that I didn’t even want any when I had her. I know she’s only five but she massively misinterpreted it and got upset. I comforted her and put her back to sleep.

“In the morning she must’ve told her father what had happened when he was making her breakfast as I woke up to my husband absolutely furious with me for traumatising our daughter and damaging her self esteem.

“I told him she’d be fine but he kept shouting at me telling me I was an awful mother. I replied that it’s hard being a good mother to kids you regret having.

“He asked if I was being serious and I said that I was being impulsive when I said that but that I didn’t want them and he knew that.

“He left the room absolutely furious with me and took the kids to his parents’ house.”

But Reddit users called her out for being inappropriate.

One said: “Your daughter didn’t “massively misinterpret” what you said. You were incredibly inappropriate and hurtful to your small child, your daughter, your 5 year old who is tender and your responsibility.”

Another added: “She should have stopped after saying that at her age she didn’t wanted any. That’s perfectly normal.

“The rest of the conversation is the kind of thing you tell to your therapist. Her child will never forget this.”

A third also commented: “Your husband is clearly not the greatest person in the world for forcing you into having multiple children you didn’t want.”

And: “Why did you marry a guy who wanted kids when you didn’t? That’s like basic compatibility stuff” said a fourth.